Wednesday, October 26, 2016


To know what you prefer instead of humbly saying Amen to what the world tells you you ought to prefer is to have kept your soul alive - Robert Louis Stevenson

Tuesday, October 18, 2016

Friday, October 14, 2016

What you're doing

Your favorite place is the farm.  Although you like to do nearly anything - being outside, driving your cars, playing at Grammy's....    You love to SING!   You sing all the time, you wake up singing and you don't stop.  Your teacher told me today that you sing the loudest in the class :)   She also told me that your gentle and very empathetic.  If anyone is having a bad day you like to cheer them up.  In fact, this has been a trait of yours since your earliest music classes.  My big-hearted boy.  One day when I was sad you told me "deep breath mama."   My hurt nearly burst.  

I tell you that your mama's angel, sent straight from heaven.   I have no doubt that is true.  

Thursday, October 13, 2016

36 Questions

Have you listened to this TED talk.  It's not new but it's new to me.  I enjoyed it.

Also, here are the 36 questions the speaker refers to...  interesting.

Here they are, in order:
1. Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?
2. Would you like to be famous? In what way?
3. Before making a phone call, do you ever rehearse what you're going to say? Why?
4. What would constitute a perfect day for you?
5. When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else?
6. If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you choose?
7. Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die?
8. Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common.
9. For what in your life do you feel most grateful?
10. If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?
11. Take four minutes and tell you partner your life story in as much detail as possible.
12. If you could wake up tomorrow having gained one quality or ability, what would it be?
13. If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future or anything else, what would you want to know?
14. Is there something that you've dreamt of doing for a long time? Why haven't you done it?
15. What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?
16. What do you value most in a friendship?
17. What is your most treasured memory?
18. What is your most terrible memory?
19. If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living? Why?
20. What does friendship mean to you?
21. What roles do love and affection play in your life?
22. Alternate sharing something you consider a positive characteristic of your partner. Share a total of five items.
23. How close and warm is your family? Do you feel your childhood was happier than most other people's?
24. How do you feel about your relationship with your mother?
25. Make three true "we" statements each. For instance, "we are both in this room feeling..."
26. Complete this sentence "I wish I had someone with whom I could share..."
27. If you were going to become a close friend with your partner, please share what would be important for him or her to know.
28. Tell your partner what you like about them: be honest this time, saying things that you might not say to someone you've just met.
29. Share with your partner an embarrassing moment in your life.
30. When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself?
31. Tell your partner something that you like about them already.
32. What, if anything, is too serious to be joked about?
33. If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone? Why haven't you told them yet?
34. Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire. After saving your loved ones and pets, you have time to safely make a final dash to save any one item. What would it be? Why?
35. Of all the people in your family, whose death would you find most disturbing? Why?
36. Share a personal problem and ask your partner's advice on how he or she might handle it. Also, ask your partner to reflect back to you how you seem to be feeling about the problem you have chosen.

Wednesday, October 12, 2016

Divine Dance

"Did you ever imagine that what we call "vulnerability" might just be the key to ongoing growth?  In my experience, healthily vulnerable people use every occasion to expand, change and grow.   Yet it is a risky position to live undefended, in a kind of constant openess to the other - because it means others could sometimes actually wound us.   Indeed, vulnera comes from the Latin word for "to wound".  But only we take this risk do we also allow the opposite possibility: the other might also gift us, free us, and even love us."    "....This then, seems to be the work of the Spirit: to keep you vulnerable to life and love itself and to resist all that destroy the Life Flow" - Fr. Richard Rohr & Mike Morrell, Divine Dance. 

Tuesday, October 11, 2016

The Storm

"Fate whispers to the warrior, you cannot withstand the storm.  The warrior whispers back, "I am the storm""   via Glennon.

Back from a perfect long weekend.  

Friday, October 7, 2016

Still here

Just been in a busy season.  Like any part of nature, I need some time to rest so I can come back stronger than before.  I miss this space.  It's truly a friend.   And though I haven't written much, I have been reading it.  Going back, remembering how certain things made me feel.  Where I was.  What was happening.  I'm glad I have it documented.  It all goes so fast and so slow.  Days, weeks, years....  Life. 

Via Glennon Doyle Melton