Two lines from Glennon Doyle Melton, worth sharing and saving.
It hurts and it's painful but then there's a waiting when you don't know what the hell's going on, and you don't think ay of its gonna make sense, and then there's the rising. That's the pattern always. But you have to stick around if you wanna see the rising. You gotta freaking stick around through the pain and through the waiting. Cause if you leave you don't see it.
When her pain is fresh and new, let her have it. Don't try to take it away. Forgive yourself for not having that power. Grief and pain are like joy and peace; they are not things we should try to snatch from each other. They're sacred. They are part of each person's journey. All we can do is offer relief from this fear: I am all alone. That's the one fear you can alleviate.