This guy writes the most beautiful stuff:
"It's so interesting - when we are young, it's the illusion of perfection that we fall in love with. But as we age, its the humanness that we fall in love with: the poignant story of overcoming, the depthful vulnerability of aging, the struggles that grew us in karmic stature, the way a soul shaped itself to accomodate its cicurmstances. With less energy to hold up our armor, we are revealed and, in the revealing, call out to each other's hearts. Where before wounds turned us off, the are now revealed as proof that God exists. Where we once saw imperfect scars, we now see evidence of a life fully lived."
"If you emerge from the ending of any relationship <situation> feeling more positive about yourself, more aware of your rights, needs and entitlements, more attuned to your own value, more celabratory of your own magnificance, and with better boundaries and a more finely attuned authenticity-mometer, than you have had a blessed relationship journey, even if the ending was toxic. The School of Hard Knocks yields all manner of fruit"